byTNicole

Transformative Ascension

Tue, 04 Aug 2020 16:46:45 -0700

A solo journey..

In silent solitude, meditating and channeling my intentions for this moment, all while affirming with my higher self what’s true, what’s real.

Never motivated or driven by what the masses say, do or believe. I am an individual. On my journey thru this current existence.

Tuned in to the energies around me. Tapped in to the message nature whispers in my souls ear. And completely turned on by the unconditional, unyielding love I’m magnetically attracting.

A journey worthwhile

Oh how fortunate I am to be different. Birthed from the tuftred fruit of the dandelion, liberated by the blowing winds. I am emerging from the chrysalis and preparing to fly!!!

Higher... and higher!! Free to love, and free to be loved.

To further your inspiration and become acquainted with The GREAT Revolution, purchase a copy of Inspired Legacy from Amazon online store. If you are in the Atlanta area, feel free to stop by the infamous Nubian Bookstore in Morrow, GA for a copy.

And hooray, INSPIRE U Consultation sessions are now available. You can schedule an appointment here, or via any of the byTNicole social media sites.

During these sessions, we can tackle the issues that stand in the way of you becoming your best self and hindering achievement of greatness in your child. I'm super excited to have a more personal connection and partner in the cultivation of greatness in our children.

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UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

Fri, 07 Feb 2020 11:07:45 -0800

A Destination Called Love

From the earliest of ages, the character of love is formed. What it looks like, how it feels and how it is expressed are all calculated understandings that most children can explain. These understandings, unfortunately though, are solely based on the limited view of what has been experienced.

To more accurately learn what it is and how to arrive at it's destination, it will be required to go beyond the snapshots of life we see and hear about. Love is much more expansive than the single-lane road we're likely on and more connecting than the cross-roads intersecting ahead. Love is an appointed end, only reached thru the proper navigation of truth.

Truth Positioning

There are many factors that contribute toward a healthy state of love, but none compare to that of truth. Without truth, all other factors - individually and comprehensively - are a lie.

Respect with no truth, is disrespect. Communication with no truth, is silence. Trust with no truth, is doubt. Love could not survive on respect, communication and trust - with no truth. Truth is the cornerstone; the foundation and the driving force to love.

Truth, in fact, IS LOVE!

Unconditionally, with Condition

With the realization that truth is love, a single condition thereby exists to reaching the destination of true, unconditional love. Disregarding social constraints and expectations commonly attached to loving another person; experiencing divine love requires a completely different level of practice and application.

Unconditional love is free, uninhibited, ever-expanding, unbothered, renewable, powerful and eternal. It is the combined feeling, emotion and energy of heavenly bliss. Having this type of love allows for the impossible to become possible, fear to initiate laughter and the misfortunes of the past to transform into a welcomed sacrifice for the now.

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The Change You Seek, Is Seeking You

Fri, 27 Dec 2019 09:41:42 -0800

Confirming the Vision

Often when we seek change, we complicate the desire by not being clear about the change we want. The frustration and burden of our current experience triggers the emotions, yet lacks any form in a tangible or visual sense. This borderline blinding activity explains the lack of movement and fulfillment of the hoped for, anticipated change.

With this, it is critical to confirm the vision and ensure it is clear; as only a vision that is clear can be achieved. Whether it's a new job, entrepreneurial opportunity, new relationship or overall new beginning, being able to articulate the high-level details of what you are seeking is key. What characteristics are necessary, what feeling should the change garner, or how will life improve after the change.

Having answers to these and similar questions create the clear vision - which in turn is the foundation and catalyst to every manifesting step that follows.

Commit

Once a vision is clear, committing to it keeps it alive. The commitment to a vision is no different than any other display of allegiance. Being attentive to the vision, giving time to it, protecting it and adjusting when it is impacted in any way are vital elements required for its eventual outcome.

To establish a vision and activate a desire are like seeds of change. Like a farmer who is committed to his crops, daily attention and purposeful action are required to harvest. A vision without active engagement eventually dies.

Alternatively, a change is the result of a vision that is cultivated and matured.

Allow the Change to Be

Add paragraph text here. In no way minimizing the challenges faced when change becomes a necessary lifeline; it is, however, an interesting phenomenon to compare this to the forceful resistance faced when the decision is made on a change and expectancy mode begins.

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Flying with a Broken Wing

Sun, 10 Nov 2019 17:33:55 -0800

In dedication to the brother I never knew.

The Anatomy of Flying

A bird, one of a few animals to have an ability to fly, has a complex makeup that in total makes all things possible. From the hollow bones of their skeleton to the flight muscle of their feathers, birds are built light, yet they are very strong.

Also equipped with a large brain and big eyes, birds are capable of making quick moves at high speeds, seeing both fine detail and a view of what's ahead and behind.

In comparison to the human species, birds are often perceived to be somewhat mystical and that the faculty of flying was a skill only gifted to them.

Defying such wonder, however, the art of soaring is actually bestowed upon us all. The only difference is that a bird flies despite the season or weather conditions. Flying is innate, and not dependent. No thought or second guessing. Birds soar in all environments and situations... in and around, under and between.

Broken, yet Breathing

The troubles, pains and burdens that weigh upon us often blur our vision, giving off an obscure view of tomorrow's possibility. These difficulties somehow develop into internal extremities and begin to define the future.

While some may enter life amidst unfavorable or toxic circumstances that impair the ability to achieve great success, others accumulate situations along the way. In either case, and not ignoring the gravity or impact of the hurtful situations, understanding and having a change in perspective could be the life-saving event.

Knowing the difference between living and dying or drowning and flying was a series of actions - (1) freeing oneself thru forgiveness - of self and others, (2) overcoming associated fears and (3) taking a chance at flying, would give life to the broken wings restrained from flying. Knowing this would expand the capacities of the sky.

Fly

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Be Like The Phoenix

Sat, 26 Oct 2019 17:53:29 -0700

You Are an Invincible Creation

Legend has it that the long-lived phoenix bird’s greatest skill was its ability to rise from its own ashes. After being consumed in a blaze of fire, the phoenix magically reconstituted itself and reformed its body anew.

Amazing… and borderline unbelievable.

If only the skill and ability of the phoenix went beyond mysticism. If only the narrative of rebirth could have a realistic display. Well… I’m the bearer of good news today.

For the spiritual and non-spiritual, the phrase “all things are possible” is commonly known and widely used. The notable intent of this statement is to both affirm the indomitable power of the mind and remove all the known and unknown barriers and limitations affecting it.

Beyond what is faced in the physical realm, if there is a belief that something will cause you to fail or be hurt – you will. Hence, the ability to survive moments of despair or overcome crisis, is to know that the supernatural power to survive and recreate yourself into a stronger, wiser, more resilient being has already been gifted to you.

Renewal and Resurrection

Knowing that you have the ability to rise above the past is a critical first step; although taking the next action and exercising your ability is the piece that matters most.

As you assess your current state and realize that you may be in a place of complacency or even amid a heated storm, you are encouraged to harness the courage of the phoenix and conquer your fire.

The other side offers new hope, opportunity and the promise of a new beginning and unseen experiences. The rebirthed YOU will be stronger, wiser and more resilient; able to face inevitable challenges with the wherewithal, courage and ease learned thru the fires of your past.

Let not fear stand in the way of your new start; as It’s usually the hidden culprit to any resistance. The...Read More

The Neglected Caterpillar Within

Sun, 20 Oct 2019 11:53:49 -0700

The urge to write today’s blog was so very strong - as it speaks volumes to me personally. Hence, I will write from a first-person point of view, in hopes of inspiring you and inspiring me.

The Purpose and Promise of Change

From birth, a caterpillar is called to fly. It is purposed, after a series of events, to transform into a butterfly and live the butterfly experience.

As we age however, we sometimes discover that we’ve only grown in stagnation, and have just become the older version of our former self. Though we’ve allowed our fashion to change, in most cases everything else about us has stayed the same. How we feel, perceive, relate and react today mirrors the patterns of the same across the timeline of our lives.

Along with our unchanged views, we have likely discovered that our past experiences are the defining the content and flow of our current ones. The place where we lost faith, trust or hope – or even experienced disappointment, rejection or abuse – is the exact place our caterpillar development and advancement was paused. In this place, we ceased to exist fully and deferred the life of the butterfly to the illusion of our circumstance.

This inability or avoidance to go beyond can originate from a myriad of sources, however in many cases the root cause is fear. Not knowing what the future holds and the likelihood of repeating past situations, is sometimes enough to hold the caterpillar hostage and frozen in the dis-comfort of what’s known. Alternatively, for some, not knowing how to make the change can also be the unfortunate cause.

In either case, allowing the stages of life to occur naturally and free-flowing - fully disconnecting from residual emotions and past attachments – offers an extremely effective way to manage and proceed thru the necessary and intended change. This mindset also affords us an organic, pure and loving way to have new opportunities,...Read More

The Bad Hand Life Can Deal

Thu, 17 Oct 2019 06:14:41 -0700

The Game

There is almost nothing that compares to a day of fun with family and friends gathered to play a game of cards. Good mood, good food – and yes, the best of off-the-wall comments and raw jokes from the resident comedian in the room. During these times, bonds are made, strategies are devised and whatever hand is dealt – is played.

Shuffle one, shuffle two… and then there’s a final act of shuffling magic from the dealer that ultimately delivers your playing hand. Laughter fills the room, yet there is a silent anticipation of what’s in your pile that begins to overshadow the external sounds.

And then the big reveal; the moment you discover if you have “the winning hand”. One pitiful card, a second pitiful card.. and then another sure to lose addition. The mental chatter begins... “Oh my goodness!! No fair! I can’t win with these cards. I don’t have anything that could possibly carry any weight or win this game. It’s a wrap. Game over!”

Interestingly, and in like manner, these are the same thoughts we have with our lives. When there’s a disappointment, a failure, a closed door or broken relationship there is a tendency to immediately throw in the hand and assume defeat. Alternatively, when the cards appear to be stacked up in a manner that puts you in an inferior position, it is actually the perfect time to put on a game face and strong arm the competition with a full dose of passion, mixed with a sprinkle of intimidation.

This similarly and wholeheartedly holds true as it relates to raising children and setting an example for them to follow. Even with a bad hand, the mindset must remain play to win.

The Win

In life, and most certainly in the game of cards, there may not be any control over what cards are received from the deal – but there is always a choice in the response to what's in hand and how the cards are played. Oftentimes the baggage from the past continues to play a...Read More

Negativity, A Personal Health Crisis and Epidemic

Sun, 13 Oct 2019 19:33:39 -0700

The Signs and Symptoms

Chronic pessimism, an abrasive and harmful contagion, has been ignored and sometimes misdiagnosed as an illness for centuries. Individuals that consistently see the glass half empty and drown others in the toxicity of their views, have become a norm of society. Waking up on the wrong side of the bed is even used in jest to describe someone that is unhappy or grumpy. Humor aside, not owning up or correcting oneself in advance of meeting the public should be unacceptable and worthy of temporary quarantine. Unfortunately, due to the lack of acknowledgement, the warning signs of the condition and often life-threatening impacts of living with (and spreading) the disease are missed and never vaccinated.

Some emotional indicators of negativity are being easily aggravated, sad, depressed, bossy, a loner, lacking confidence or trust in self and others, having a single perspective on all things, problem focused, being anxious, a worrier, having extreme interest in bad news, a gossiper, judgmental or being comfortable only in one's current place. These emotions and behaviors left untreated, can then manifest physically into conditions like tightness or pain in the chest, neck, back, or arms, fatigue, headaches, abnormal heartbeat, and high blood pressure. Any of these sound familiar? … feel familiar?

Interestingly, many medical conditions - including those determined by research to be the leading causes of death across the globe - have the same distinct characterizations. In saying this, it is quite probable that an underlying, yet pervasive cause for these diseases is the pessimistic and energy draining attitude called NEGATIVITY.

The Diagnosis and Prognosis

Unlike other conditions, diagnosing negativity...Read More

The Underground Prison of Anger, Pain and Depression

Wed, 09 Oct 2019 20:32:29 -0700

Recognizing the Chains

Whether by way of childhood trauma or along-the-way drama, many of our life experiences can place us in an emotional and/or spiritual bondage. Aged circumstances and abuse of all kind carry a significant, long-lasting weight and leave behind scars often too difficult to heal on their own. Hence, for most people, attempts to self-treat or simply ignore the ails becomes the unfortunate coping mechanism.

Negative emotions - like anger, for example - have a chameleon-like ability to come and go depending on the situation or audience surrounding. If being joyous is what's called for at the time, we tend to shift expression for the moment and subconsciously suppress our true state of being. This temporary subduing however, can sometimes lead to an unintentional, yet permanent hibernation of our true self.

Admitting that we are not all good an important first step towards healing. Allowing ourselves to be ok with not being ok is real courage that loosens the grip of the emotional shackles. Granting permission to our feelings to be and be open and vulnerable to receiving help, is the virtual key to regaining love for self and love for others - and yes, even for those that inflicted the pain.

Time Served, Be Free!

Our feelings are real and being held captive by them is wrongful in every way. The true crime is the accompanying mindset that we somehow deserve what happened or that we are bound to the walls of how low we feel.

Proclaim today.. "Neither of these thoughts shall we permit, so we must now and forever acquit!"

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Counseling is Not a Dirty Word

Sun, 06 Oct 2019 20:00:48 -0700

The Silent Cry for Help

Upon entering parenthood, most are ill-prepared for the role and camouflaging the newfound fears with blind excitement. Our attention is quickly captivated by the birth and fanfare of the celebratory moment. The emotions, thoughts and experiences of our yesterdays quickly get stored away, with hopes that what's out of sight will remain out of mind. Unfortunately, however, as time passes the lids of the stored packages become loosened and unintentionally in many cases begin to pour over into our todays.

In the forward movement of parenting, there's little time to look back. We spend every awakened hour representing the needs of our children, and further neglecting our own. For some parents, it's commonplace to fully sacrifice everything and give from a place of nothingness. As commendable as that is, the long term sustainability and overall effectiveness of this approach is short-lived - and quite damaging for both parent and child. The muted voice being given to the ails of our past ultimately transform into an outcry of distress in the new (or existing) parent-child relationship.

The Comfort of the Couch

Seeking help to unpackage the past is a basic necessity. The overwhelming nature of the task, combined with the science of how our brains work, validates the need to pursue partnership in this deeply therapeutic endeavor. Though I advocate for licensed, professional counseling, I also believe there to be extreme value in working with trusted, open-minded, non-judgmental individuals that have both life-experience and proven results in the area you are needing healing.

It wasn't until I took residence on the couch that I realized the laundry list of hurts I'd been holding on to. Dating back to grade-school I remembered the vicious name calling and accompanied sadness. Reflecting on these aged events, it evidenced me how negatively impacting labels could be. The continual...Read More